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Two youths engaged in sex, one of them holding a hoop. Detail from an amphora

The Truth About Sex in Ancient Greece

An exhibition at the British Museum  promises to lift the lid on what beauty meant for the ancient Greeks. But while we gaze at the serene marble statues on display – straining male torsos and soft female flesh – are we seeing what the ancients saw?

The question I’m asking here isn’t a philosophical one, but rather it’s to do with our expectations and assumptions about beauty, sex appeal and sex itself. The feelings that beautiful faces and bodies rouse in us no doubt seem both personal and instinctive – just as they presumably did for the ancient Greeks who first made and enjoyed these artworks. But our reactions are inevitably shaped by the society we live in.

Greek attitudes towards sex were different from our own, but are all those myths about the sex lives of the ancient Greeks true? And how does this affect how we view the art?

Here are the facts behind four commonly held beliefs.

Greek men were all bisexual

It was certainly the norm in ancient Greece for a man to find both sexes attractive. But the private lives of men in classical Athens – the city we know most about – were very different from anything that a “bisexual” man might experience today.

Relationships between men of the same age were not at all common: rather, the standard same-sex relationship would involve an adolescent boy and an older man. Men also used female prostitutes regularly: sex could be brought cheaply in a city that was home to countless brothels, streetwalkers and female “entertainers”. As for marital relations, men seldom married before the age of 30, and apart from the wedding night, it was common for married couples to sleep apart.

These different sexual relationships are captured in classical vase painting in strikingly different ways. For same-sex relationships, the focus is typically on the courtship; for prostitution, it’s on the sexual act; for marriage, it’s on the moment when the groom leads his new wife home.

Greek women had arranged marriages

This is largely true. A girl’s father traditionally saw it as his duty to find a suitable husband for his daughter and, importantly, would generally have played a role in finding a wife for his son as well. In Athens, a girl generally got married at about 16 – typically to a man twice her age, often a paternal uncle or an associate of her father’s.

These arrangements might be expected to lead to unhappy marriages, but we do find examples of loving couples. In terms of art, what I find particularly touching are the tender portraits of wives on tombstones, where women are characteristically displayed as faithful, loving mothers.

Interestingly, the bride becomes a figure of intense erotic interest in 5th-century BC Athens. Vase paintings often depict young women putting on clothes and jewellery ahead of their weddings or being led by the hand by their groom, with a winged Eros floating nearby.

Courtship, Attic red-figure cup from Vulci

Courtship, Attic red-figure cup from Vulci (CC by SA 3.0 ).

The Greeks liked their boys young

Just as young brides were sexy, it was as adolescents that males were found attractive by other men. A boy’s sexual allure began to diminish the moment he started to grow facial and body hair and this short window of attractiveness perhaps explains the ecstatic reception that poster-boy youths like Charmides received. According to Plato, everyone at the wrestling school gazes at Charmides “as if he were a statue” and Socrates himself “catches fire” when he sees inside the youth’s cloak.

For all that Charmides and other hotties – both male and female – are described as “beautiful” and “pretty-faced”, Greek authors rarely mention specific facial features. We have little idea what eye-shapes or lip-shapes were found attractive, for instance. Is there a connection to be made between this lack of interest in faces and the serene – some would say, blank – expressions we find on many classical statues?

In addition to gym-fit, smooth-skinned youths, Greeks also admired the physique of adult men – as the statues of athletes, gods and heroes in Defining Beauty show. Athens’s answer to Miss World was a male beauty contest, the Euandria, a contest of “manliness” where contestants were judged on their bodily strength and ability as well as their looks.

Banquet scene: man reclining on a bench and youth playing the aulos. Tondo of an Attic red-figure cup

Banquet scene: man reclining on a bench and youth playing the aulos. Tondo of an Attic red-figure cup ( public domain ).

The Greeks knew how to party

The symposium (an all-male drinking party) was one occasion when Greeks would let their hair down. This was an opportunity for men and older youths to bond and was highly erotically charged. Guests would flirt with each other, with slaves pouring the drinks, and there would be female prostitutes hired as “entertainers” for the evening.

The cups from which diners drank at these events are often painted with erotic scenes, ranging from lingering glances to full-blown orgies. But whether these scenes reflect the real goings-on at these parties is another matter. Disappointingly for anyone who likes to think of the ancient Greeks as free from sexual hang-ups, these depictions of orgies may just be an erotic fantasy or a tongue-in-cheek warning of the consequences of drunkenness.

The British Museum’s exquisite statues are a world away from these erotic images.  Defining Beauty  shuns the symposium’s tangle of limbs in favour of a more refined, other-worldly aesthetic. But taut flesh is still in evidence – and whether the beauty on display is still found sexy ultimately lies in the eye of the beholder.

Top image: Two youths engaged in sex, one of them holding a hoop. Detail from an amphora ( public domain ).

The truth about sex in ancient Greece’ by James Robson was originally published on The Conversation and has been republished under a Creative Commons license.

Comments

regardless of the cultural acceptance of the practice of child molestation in ancient greece, the abuse young men had to endure from disgusting old men was passed on from generation to generation is disgusting. this is one of the more abhorrent aspects
of antiquity, right up there with slavery, raping and pillaging, and human sacrifice.

May I ask why I feel so much anger from your comment? It's old, and and long dead, why are you so angered by that?

We should not judge ancient times with modern eyes, age of adulthood changed greatly through human history. Wen don't know their definition of old man, how old they were when they started with this practice... Considering one old could be greatly shifted by large portion of population which even did not made it to adulthood and thus those of 30 could be considered old. And so on.

Anyhow this is so long ago that being emotional about that is in my opinion nonsense.

Yes, I totally agree with the IMBS Author. The practice of ancient male child molestation is extremely disturbing and it's, unfortunately, still going on today

It would be interesting to see if the Jewish religion was the first religion to ban the practice of homosexuality.

What record do we have of the last acceptable practice before it became "a sin"?

No, negative.
First punishments for homosexuality we could find in ancient Mesopotamia, it was typically castration. Sometimes execution.

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