Why Do Couples Exchange Rings with Vows? The Elusive Ancient Origins of Wedding Rings
The image of a couple exchanging rings during a wedding ceremony is instantly recognizable, and is held as an ancient tradition. A ring on a certain finger indicates that the wearer is married, but many might be surprised to learn that the double ring ceremony so common today in the western world, in which a couple both exchange and wear rings, is a 20 th century convention. However, the origins of giving rings to commit to marriage, to pledge loyalty, or to symbolize a heart connection are ancient.
Said to be one of the oldest marital customs, it is one which has changed over time and across cultures, and so the true origins of wedding rings are somewhat elusive.
Ancient Egypt: Ring of infinity
Ancient Egyptians are said to have been the first to use rings in a wedding ceremony, as early as 3000 BC. Rings were made of braided hemp or reeds formed into a circle—the symbol of eternity, not only for the Egyptians, but many other ancient cultures. The hole in the ring’s center represented a gateway or door leading to future events. These rings were placed on the fourth finger of the left hand (known as the ring finger) as Egyptians believed a vein ran from that finger straight to the heart, and this practice is said to be the origins of many later traditions. These rings were placed by a man upon the finger of his wife, signifying his confidence in her ability to care for his house.
Reed rings were not very durable, and eventually rings made of bone, leather or ivory came into use. As more expensive materials were used, the value of the ring represented the degree of wealth of the giver, as well as the quality of love shown.
“Vena Amoris” or the Vein of Love: The ring finger was thought to connect directly to the heart, and in ancient beliefs it possessed magical properties. (Michiel1972 from nl/ CC BY-SA 3.0 )
Ancient Rome: Purchasing a bride
The Romans continued the tradition of the wedding ring, but the ring was often given by the groom to the father of the bride, and served as a symbol of bride purchase. By the second century BC, the bride herself was given an expensive gold ring as an indication the groom trusted her with his valuable property, but it was only worn in public, and was not used during household work. Instead, a plain betrothal or engagement ring of iron, called Anulus Pronubus , was worn at home, and on the iron ring sometimes sported a tiny key shape. These rings signified strength, permanence, and a control over the giver’s possessions, which could be ‘locked away’ at the wearer’s discretion.
Rings could be worn on any finger, but the Greeks and Romans wore these wedding rings on the fourth finger of the left hand, for they too believed in the hand-heart connection, and felt that the Vena Amoris , or Vein of Love, coursed between the ring finger and the heart.
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Two left hands forming an outline of a heart shape. Both hands are wearing a wedding ring. ( CC BY 2.0 )
It is also said the Romans were the first to engrave wedding rings.
The distinctive Claddagh rings that depict hands holding a crown or heart date back to Roman times and the design symbolizes friendship, loyalty, oaths, faith and love. These were used as engagement and wedding rings in the Middle Ages and Renaissance Europe. The rings as they’re currently known were made in Ireland in the 17th century, and are traditionally passed down from mother to daughter.
Claddagh Ring was used during wedding ceremonies. (Royalcladdagh/ CC BY-SA 3.0 )
Jewish traditions placed wedding rings on the middle finger or the thumb, but are now most commonly placed on the index (pointer) finger. Wedding Ring Origins writes of the imposing rings used in ancient Hebrew weddings:
“This curious ring was shaped like the roof of a Jewish temple, and was so large and clumsy that it could not be worn in the ordinary manner. Many times it was the property of the synagogue and was borrowed for the event, for it was needed during only a portion of the ritual and was then removed. It has even been said that these huge, elaborate rings were used to hold myrtle branches at weddings.”